Thursday, January 25, 2007

Being a SAHM

So if I am a student, does that negate the whole stay at home mom thing? I am curious because I am a student because I want to be a teacher when my children are all in school. I know this may not make any sense...but I am wanting to get our family out of debt. I know we shouldn't have gotten into debt in the first place, that is our mistake...but we are there. We are officially in debt and after the kids all get into school, if I work as a teacher, on the kids schedule, we can get ourselves out of debt considerably faster. So, that being said, I need my kids to know I LOVE being home with them. Don't get me wrong, there are days when I am thoroughly stressed out...I get frustrated with my children...but I cannot imagine any other life for myself. I worked about three days a week in Alabama...with the first two children. My mother in law kept the kids and that was great...she was so awesome with them. They felt comfortable with her...she is their BABBIE...that was great...but I don't want that anymore...not that I don't want my mother in law to watch them, that isn't it...I just want to be able to raise them as their mother instead of someone else doing it. I think Babbie did an awesome job with them...they always followed the rules, they were so well taken care of...but down there, I put oldest girl into Mothers Morning out...I thought I was doing her a service, she was 2, didn't she need to be in preschool? WHAT? Where is it written that a child has to be in preschool? Oldest boy, never been to preschool, he attends a one hour session of "pre-k" twice a week with a friend of mine and that is two doors down and there are three kids in the class...THAT is helping him, he is accomplishing so much...TOTALLY believe I could have done it is just working out great to do it there...UGH! What a pathetic post...I am also a struggling judgemental person. I always find myself wishing I could get inside my own brain and make it act right. It is truly not a good thing to be judgemental. I know this, it is TOTALLY unBiblical. I know this. So I am trying to teach myself to love everyone, no matter what their choices in life are...working mothers...smoking parents...etc. etc. I have issues...serious issues...PRAYING! :) All this being said, visit this awesome blogger...


Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) said...

Oh girl - yes you are still a SAHM if you are a student. And I think it is a great plan to be a teacher!

I am a wahm and I love having both parts of my life - some work and being home too.

But you know - I honestly think that there should be no guilt either way. I think that most moms do the best for their family and their situation. Working moms love their kids just as much - I watched that show on Oprah about them discussing it and it really breaks my heart. We should be supporting each other, not criticizing each other's decisions. Mommyhood is tough no matter what. We need to support our fellow moms.

But yes - I admit I do want to throttle a woman who smokes around her children! ;)

And THANK YOU SO MUCH for your wonderful comment this morning on my post! I REALLY appreciate it :)

the_a_team said...

I would LOVE to be an SAHM! But for some that just isn't an option. Like for me, if I didn't work who would earn the money to buy food or clothes? Now I know it is MY mistakes that lead me to this point in my life having two children and being single. I have no idea what it would be like to be able to stay at home with my kids. After having Anoe I went back to work when she was only 2 weeks old! But I do wish and pray there would be a day when I could stay at home with my girls! I always feel so guilty that I don't have more time to spend with them! Especially with all the extra help Alexis needs! But I do love my children and I only want the best for them! That's the main reason I am single now.

Of course I'll continue to pray for you and your family! I know God knows your heart and he doesn't want you to be judgemental! But it's hard to keep our "flesh" at bay! Good luck! :)


Adventures In Babywearing said...

I totally understand where you're coming from. I have learned a lot from just being around people of all kinds and befriending them (putting yourself "in their shoes") and you'll realize although you make different choices, your hearts are in similar places... As I get older I find that I keep my judgements INSIDE and silent and often I find sooner or later that the way I felt wasn't necessarily RIGHT!

Elizabeth S said...

Hey girl. I, too, find myself being judgemental. Something I have had to work on a lot in my life. As far as being a sahm, I think your kids know how important it is to you, even if they don't show it. I know that my kids love me being home, but our kids aren't old enough to tell us yet. But my mom stayed home with me and I know now how much I appreciate the sacrifices she made, so I hope one day my kids will feel the same way. Love you!