Thursday, January 11, 2007

I'm not a nice person

So it's time to confess...I am not nice. I am not kind and I am not sweet...I am not sure why but I start out thinking I am going to wake up and be a kind, loving, wonderful wife and mother...then the day starts and I turn into someone that is just not what I want to be. I get frustrated with my children, I get frustrated with my husband and I am not kind. I yell. I hate yelling at my kids, they don't deserve to be yelled at, they did not ask to be born in this house...they are sweet and loving babies. Don't get me wrong, I know they are kids and I am the parent. I know I am supposed to discipline them. I just want to be the mom that never yells. The mom that always make the right decision for discipline, you know, never ever spanking...getting the desired result. Is always speaking in a kind tone of voice is always doing things the way Christ would. God entrusted these children to me. I'm admitting this on my blog...I think I want any suggestions out there for better/more quality parenting. I want to raise children that are not doing things so they don't get into trouble, I want to raise children who do the right thing because they want to do the right thing, that is what the Bible says to do, not their mom...I want to raise children who TRULY have a heart for Christ, not a head for Christ...does that make sense? I don't know the answers...and am welcoming any suggestions anyone has...

7 comments:

Victoria said...

aren't you supposed to be asleep? oh ..wait that is me...LOL

Since I know soooo much about raisin chillins...I think you should....ha ha ha

I guess my kitties don't count. Although they are just as sassy - and I told Abby today that she should fear me more - As she is sitting on my kitchen table as I walk in the door - pretty as you please as if that is where she belongs??? what is she thinking? Obviously not that mom is boss!! LOL ha ha (she is watching me write this right now - w/ that same sassy look) you think that cat actually knew what I was writing... ok getting late (obviously by my ramblins) love you
night V

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schlesingerv said...

practicing

iveyfamily said...

I too feel this way often. I want to be a mom that my kids look back on when they are older and have many "good" thoughts about. I want them to respect me and value me as a guide and counselor in their life ... now how to do all this .... not so sure!

the_a_team said...

I went to a parenting conference that my church hosted a couple of years ago and it has helped us a lot! Instead of yelling and screaming at the kids when you're angry, send them to their room to sit on their bed with no toys or anything fun to give them time to think about what they have done. It also gives you time to cool off. While they're in their room, you should pray and ask God for guidance. (They had books for sell to help find verses in the bible to help with this but I didn't buy one.) Then after you have prayed, you can go and talk to your child about what they were doing wrong and if you feel it is necessary to spank them, then you can. But it won't be done out of anger. And I know we all say things we regret later due to our anger. This has really helped with my girls. One other thing we do though is they have to put they're hands in mine. Miles Sweeney explained in the lecture. You may be able to look him up online. Good luck!!!

Amanda

4andcounting said...

Lots of prayer. Forgive yourself when you slip up. When you are not disciplining, take time to talk about who Jesus is and what He wants from all of us. Being Catholic is handy, because we have crucifixes in all the rooms. When someone does something particularly egregious, they have to apologize to me and Jesus. Not that I want them to fear Him, but to make the connection that when we fail to love, we are hurting Him too.
I am struggling constantly with this. I have a hard time just getting down and playing with my kids. My personality and what engages me is better suited to older kids, but I can't let that be an excuse.
Identify kids that have the behaviors and traits you would like to see in your children and then talk to their parents. Surely they are doing something they can share!

Crystal said...

ooooh bless your heart --I loved your post--you are a true momma with a love for Jesus-- xoxo--if you can figure an easy way to raise Godly children who love the lord with all of their heart and who always do the right thing --please come and tell me I need to know!!! Thank you for being so honest I have been there too!!!! hugs!!!